It's Never Just About The Sex, Where Is That Man Of Mine Anyway ? ( Part 1)

My Apologies

First of all I wanted to say I am sorry if the title of this particular article isn't super catchy or if it doesn't blow your socks off. Truth is I surveyed a ton of single woman and could not get any kind of a consensus in terms of what to name a series of articles on how to go about successfully finding a mate. In the end I chose what I liked and so there you have it.
I want to say that I am a huge fan of women. I think they represent the very best of what this planet has to offer! I mean that on many many levels. And of course the sex is not a bad thing either.

Who The Hell Do You Think I Am ?

Now, I did get a lot of interesting feedback from all those single ladies that's for sure and I thank every one of them. One comment I would like to share with you. I got a message on Face Book from one woman who asked me what right did I have writing a blog on this subject. She posed the question "shouldn't a woman who is in a successful relationship be writing this?"
I thought about that for a minute and I realized that most of the "advice" articles you read in magazines or on line regarding sex, dating, relationships or marriage are written by people of the same sex as the reader. I decided that given our country's divorce and relationship failure rate that maybe a different look at it might be interesting and useful if not just plain old entertaining.
Relationship failure rate, wow, can you imagine what that statistic must be ?

Woman Are Simpler Than Men, Yep That's Right !

This is going to be a series of articles not just one. The reason for this is that the subject of Finding the Right Mate or Finding Your Man or Hooking up with Mr. Right or Where the Hell's My Man or whatever you want to call it has a lot connected to it. I am not however suggesting that it is complicated or that because the subject might have some depth to it, that the subject or it's female participant's are complicated.
Woman are in fact not complicated. Do not confuse complicated with simple. Men are simple, woman are not. Woman are not always as easy to read as men are but that's what makes them so incredibly fascinating. I must confess here that the overwhelming majority of my friends are women. Given the choice on any given day I would always much rather hang out with my women friends rather than my men friends. Woman tend to be smarter, funnier and have a whole lot more to say than my men friends. Oh, and they are way easier on the eyes as well.
Men tend to think that woman are complicated because men are way simpler and have very basic needs. When I say basic I mean very basic. You know food, sleep, and oh yeah, sex. Sorry men, you know that's how it is.

Are You Insane ?

Here we begin the "tough love" portion of this piece. When anyone is looking at changing an unwanted condition it is usually necessary for them to face up to some cold hard facts about their situation or even worse about themselves. I am not talking about your weight or the color of your hair or your fashion sense. I am talking about the way you are looking at and going about finding the relationship that you deserve to be in. This is not always easy to do but is vital in the process of change and growth.
I believe it was Albert Einstein who wrote, that doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result is a working definition of insanity This is true enough. OK, so if you are a woman out there and are in a perfectly happy relationship you have obviously done all the right things and you don't have to read on. But, if you are like many of the single woman I know that are frustrated ( maybe not a strong enough word ) by the "lack of prospects" or the "disappointing" and endless stream of guys who just don't cut it, or are just tired of the dating scene, you have to realize if you want to change the condition you are in you are going to have to change your mind first. Change your mind in a number of ways. This will be the subject of Part 2 of this series.

I Dare You

There is going to be a lot more coming on this subject. I would love to get your feedback and commentary on what I have written. Good or bad please do leave a comment. If you like what you read or are inspired by it in any way or if it just pisses you off and you'd like another opportunity to blast what I say please click on "follow blog" and you'll be notified when I post the next one.

Thanks for reading!